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Yes, bickering over the remote is still a thing these days.

I mean that literally, take for example at the end of the day, when you’re almost ready to drift off to sleep after a full and exhausting 14 or 16 hours of being up and about. So you reach for the remote, turn on the TV and start flipping through channels until you finally reach one TV show that can lull you to sweet sleep. But your SO [significant other] decides they don’t like science shows (not tonight at least). At that point, my guess is there are two possible endings to this all-too-common scenario: you either get into an argument and potentially go to sleep angry at each other; or you relinquish the privilege of choosing the channel, hug the pillow and potentially go to sleep frustrated.

There’s more to the “remote issue” than meets the eye, though. It’s not just about giving up the choice of channels, or about deciding what kind of movie to see at the cinema. It’s ultimately about sharing, about not taking the other person for granted, even though they ever so often give priority to your needs, your problems and your frustrations. That’s not to say their own needs, problems and frustrations are non-existent, just because they choose not to voice them in order to offer you the spotlight.

Talking about these things, I can’t help but remember a song by Manic Street Preachers featuring Nina Persson – Your Love Alone Is Not Enough. Indeed, it may not correspond to the romantic vision of how love should go and how relationships should look, but ultimately true feelings of love will reflect into our ability to put our own egos aside for a while and appreciate the fact that the ones closest to us need the same attention, nurturing and gratitude from us as we do from them.