An eye for an eye will make the whole world blind. This is something I told someone who used to be hugely important to me and who could not let go of his feelings of anger and resentment – against who or what I would never be told or find out.
Life messes you up in ways we can’t explain. Until one day you realise that your patience has become a ridiculously expensive commodity; while being understanding and always willing to help or please others to the point that you’re doing it to the detriment of your own well-being is no longer acceptable. That’s the moment when you start lashing out, without reason apparently, but the reason is just buried really deep and the right person needs to come along with the patience to truly listen to you, to hold your hand and not let go even when you do lash out.
Sometimes, a broken plate is just a broken plate; and sometimes yelling at someone has nothing to do with them or with the broken plate. It’s just life messing you up a bit more. The challenge is to recognize these unhealthy patterns that have the grand potential to sabotage both your small, and your big moments of happiness. Once you’ve done this, you can move on to answering the following: are you willing to put in the conscious effort to break the patterns? Because it will be a an effort on the long run and it won’t be fun for the most part, but it will be worth it.